Going to trial is by far one of the most emotionally demanding methods for getting divorced. Unfortunately, however, sometimes it cannot be avoided. When a spouse makes it impossible to negotiate a fair agreement or won’t come to the table at all, there are few, if any, other options.
You will require stamina and discipline to stay true to yourself while preparing for and going to trial. You also will need to grasp the intricacies of the process and monitor the happenings so you can assess and reassess your decisions along the way – always ensuring that they are still aligned with who you are and what you value.
As you weather this journey, I encourage you to take the steps listed below, which are designed to help you in this particular phase and type of divorce. (Be sure to bookmark this page and come back often EVEN if you are working with a divorce attorney.)
Step One: Embrace the Process
If you are going to trial you will need to make many decisions in the process. Even if you are working with an attorney you make the final decisions about whether to proceed, continue, negotiate or accept a settlement offer. These are difficult decisions to make, but the decision making process can be made easier when you use my soul centered divorce process. It is a simple, but powerful seven-step process that will help you stay grounded in the most difficult moments and make difficult decisions with confidence and clarity. It is the process that many of my divorcing clients successfully used when we were preparing for or appearing at trial and I know it can help you too. Even if you have are already started preparing for trial or presenting your case, you can use The Soul Centered Divorce, 7 Steps to Making Difficult Divorce Decisions with Confidence and Clarity to make your best choices now. Download your copy and begin using it immediately.
Step Two: Speak to Me
Because going to trial can be very intimidating and it can be easy to lose site of the forest for the trees, I invite you to speak with me. We can brainstorm your options, revisit your values, and explore whether you are making choices that are aligned with who you are and what you value. If your choices are relatively restricted because your spouse has given you few alternatives to trial, we can work together to help you stay focused on the critical tasks at hand, take the steps necessary to go through trial, and develop a strategy for your life ahead. Learn more and schedule a conversation with me.
Step Three: Be Supported
Being supported and encouraged as you prepare for and go to trial can be incredibly important. When you find yourself weary and it is difficult to continue, your peers can cheer you on. If you are slacking off, you can be held accountable. If you are wavering in your commitment to make decisions and take action that are aligned with who you are and what you value, you can find strength in your group. Being part of a group who is going through the same things as you and working with me to apply the soul centered divorce process will enable you to know that you are not going at it alone. Join my soul centered divorce coaching circle now.
Step Four: Connect with Friends
In the wee hours of the night when you are feeling anxious and alone, you can find connection and community in The Modern Woman’s Divorce Guide’s “secret” Facebook group. This informal group setting allows you to easily connect with other divorcing women 24/7 so you can find support and encouragement when you need it most. Because I believe it is invaluable for you to connect with like minded women, my facebook group is only open to women who are committed to staying true to themselves during divorce. So, you will receive an invitation to join my facebook group when you download The Soul Centered Divorce, 7 Steps to Making Difficult Divorce Decisions with Confidence and Clarity and embrace the soul centered divorce process.
Step Five: Luxuriate and Learn
When you step away from the noise and confusion of your divorce you can restore your body, calm your mind, and reconnect with your soul. When you are connected with your soul, you can confidently acknowledge who you are and what you value. When you know who you are and what you value, you can make your best divorce decisions while preparing for trial. There is no better place to reconnect with your soul than at one of my luxury divorce retreats. At my retreat you will be well cared for with healthy meals, sumptuous accommodations, and the company of other daring women. You will be expertly guided through the Soul Centered Divorce process and encouraged to stay true to yourself during divorce. You will surrounded by luxury and have three days of access to divorce experts, who can help you prepare for trial. You will come away feeling rested and empowered, ready for what lies ahead. Come away with me.
Step Six: Do Your Homework
If you are going to trial it is especially important that you understand your state’s laws and procedures. It is also very important that you understand your options and are prepared for what lies ahead. Even if you are working with an attorney, do your homework. Read the articles listed below, as well as those listed here because mediation will likely be part of the trial preparation process and may lead to the resolution of your divorce. Approximately 95% of divorces settle without going to trial, even after the parties prepare for trial, so you’ll want to know what to expect in the mediation and negotiation processes. You also want to be prepared by knowing what you are willing to settle for in order to finalize your divorce, while staying true to yourself.
Alimony, Spousal Support, Maintenance
- Alimony, Spousal Support and Maintenance Explained
- Quick Facts About Spousal Support, Alimony, and Maintenance
- Family Support and Unallocated Alimony
Child Custody and Support
- Preparing for a Child Custody Battle
- Child Support Guidelines and Your Case
- Family Support and Unallocated Alimony
- State Child Support Calculators
- Child Support Enforcement
Finances, Taxes, and Estate Planning
- The Financial Facts Behind Divorce
- Making Your Money Go Further
- Lost in Transition: Keeping Your Financial Plan on Track Before, During, and After a Divorce
- The Theory of Relativity and Divorce Decisions Making
- Estate Planning and Divorce
- The Tax Man Cometh
- Tax and the Single Girl – Seven Things you Need to Know
Preparing for Trial
- The Divorce Trial Gamble
- Know What to Expect in Divorce Court
- Courtroom Composure: Tips for Your Courtroom Appearances
- Using a Settlement Conference for Success in Your Divorce
- 3 Mistakes Women Make in Divorce and How to Avoid Them
- Community Property Explained
- Equitable Distribution on Basics
- Separate Property Basics
- How do we value our house in divorce?
State Specific Resources
This article is not legal advice. You should consult an attorney if you have legal questions that relate to your specific divorce.