Comments for The Modern Womans Divorce Guide

Comment on Alimony, Spousal Support and Maintenance Explained by Helene L. Taylor, Esq.

Helene L. Taylor, Esq. — Wed, 22 Feb 2012 23:37:23 +0000

Hi. I don’t have the names of cases off hand, but you can visit your local law library and ask the librarian to show you how to use the California case digests to find what you’re looking for. The digests include brief case summaries that should make it more efficient to find cases with bread winning wives. You also can use The Rutter Group California Practice Guide, Family Law by Hogoboom & King, but it may be a bit difficult finding the gender specific information. The child and spousal support statutes in California are gender neutral and a bread winning wife can be ordered to pay support in appropriate cases. Best of luck with your search. Helene

*Note: this response is not legal advice and is provided for general informational purposes only. No attorney-client relationship is established pursuant to this reply. You should always speak with a licensed attorney in your state.

Comment on Alimony, Spousal Support and Maintenance Explained by theresa

theresa — Tue, 21 Feb 2012 22:51:17 +0000

Hi, can you give me any cases where there was a breadwinning wife made to pay alimony to husband in california?

Comment on Community Property Explained by Helene L. Taylor, Esq.

Helene L. Taylor, Esq. — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 22:25:12 +0000

That’s a great question. The answer is it depends on a variety of factors, first and foremost, your state’s laws. In California, a community property state, the assets may be valued at the date of separation or at the time of trial, again it depends on a variety of factors. For example, if a couple own a business during marriage that is managed by one spouse from the date of separation through the date of trial and the managing spouse’s actions cause the business to depreciate in value, a date of separation valuation argument can be made so that the non-managing spouse does not suffer losses as a result of the managing spouse’s actions. Of course the managing spouse would likely argue that the depreciation was a result of normal market conditions and as such, the business should be valued at the date of trial and the losses shared by the spouses.

If you are in California and researching on your own, I recommend using The Rutter Group, California Practice Guide, Family Law by Hogoboom & King as a starting place. You can find it at most local law libraries.

Thanks for your question.
Helene Taylor
Please note this comment is not legal advice and is provided for general educational purposes only. Please speak to a licensed attorney in your state for legal advice.

Comment on Community Property Explained by Pam

Pam — Wed, 15 Feb 2012 21:05:32 +0000

When you are in a divorce that has drug out for 10 years are the assets valued at the date of separation or the date of the final divorce?

Comment on What to Expect When Divorcing a Despicable Spouse by Sally

Sally — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 12:54:20 +0000

In case you didn’t get it… This website is for women who are generally married to MEN and in the cases of women vs. women, we all agree there are horrific women too. So unless you are a lesbian, which I am assuming you are, MEN are what we will be discussing and yes!… They are nasty and horrible and evil beings sometimes. So please, do us all a favor and save your ridiculous comments for another website.

Comment on What to Expect When Divorcing a Despicable Spouse by Helene L. Taylor, Esq.

Helene L. Taylor, Esq. — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 21:36:18 +0000

Hi Jane,

I can assure you, I have represented wonderful men in divorce who were divorcing very despicable wives. So I do not believe that only men are bad spouses and obviously, in same sex couples, the “bad spouse” can also be a woman.

Because this website is written for women I generally use “husband” in the articles so they are relatable. But all of the articles apply to men and women and same sex couples.

Thanks for your comment. Happy to clarify. This is not a man bashing site. We love good men

Comment on What to Expect When Divorcing a Despicable Spouse by jane

jane — Fri, 10 Feb 2012 19:03:42 +0000

I think it is sexist of you to assume that the “bad spouse” is a man. I think you should reform your attitude and use non sexist language. Like, how about “spouse” did X, or “spouse” did Y? I think you would hate it if someone always referred to the jilted party as a woman, wouldn’t you?

Comment on Community Property Explained by Tierre

Tierre — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 19:41:38 +0000

I am very interested in the primary home when the market is upside down due to the economy

Comment on How should I communicate with my husband during divorce? by ModDiva

ModDiva — Tue, 07 Sep 2010 04:22:33 +0000

Thanks for adding texting, Michelle. It can work for very basic communication, but is usually not best for any “heavy” stuff.

Comment on How should I communicate with my husband during divorce? by Michele

Michele — Mon, 06 Sep 2010 19:38:00 +0000

I’ve tried all of these and have had varying success with each. It depends on the topic and whether or not my ex feels like responding or discussing it or talking to me in general. Anything too “heavy” or “hard” I do by e-mail and get no response. Or if he’s drunk. No response. If its something he wants or initiates then he’s happy to discuss it. In general, its hard to get a response out of the passive-aggressive personality! Ugh!

One more mode I would add would be texting. That is probably the easiest for me personally and what I use the most