If it is, it’s time to pull in the reigns and take control of your life. “But HOW?”, you ask. By using these simple, but powerful techniques that can make obsessive thinking and uncontrollable actions a thing of the past.
- Establish a daily schedule that allows you to spend approximately one hour per day discussing or dealing with your divorce, except, of course, when more time is absolutely necessary (i.e. attending a court hearing). Stick to your schedule.
- Stop texting, emailing, messaging and writing about your divorce to anyone, especially your EX! (Notes to lawyers as requested are permitted, within reason.)
- Limit your divorce communications to one hour per day (see above) and only share your thoughts with a select group of people. (This will prevent your divorce from seeping into and filling up every corner of your life.)
- Exercise daily, limit your alcohol intake and get as much rest as possible.
- Distract yourself with positive people and activities. Find a new hobby, go out with friends, watch upbeat movies or do anything else you love.
- Take up meditation or yoga to free your mind, body and spirit.
I have recently separated from my husband who is a national TV Host for a major news network. A lot of people are unaware, especially since he still wears his ring on the show. It is so difficult going through this, so I decided to create a website about how to stay healthy while going through a separation and ultimately, a divorce. I have a “healthy diagnosis” page that keeps the spotlight off him. It is research I have done to keep me healthy and moving forward. I have encouraged other women to read this page as well. I also have a blog page to combat the everyday up and down emotions of dealing with a loss and a complete change in life. I want this blog and website to help other women. Hopefully my honesty will somehow show others that we can get through this. Please visit my website to let me know what you think: http://www.britegirl.com