the modern woman's divorce guide

1. Move. If you still live in the house you shared with your ex-husband and it’s financially reasonable, move. Find a new home and make it your own.

2. Ditch his stuff. If moving is out of the question, gather all of your ex’s belongings or the things that remind you of him, and get rid of them. Give the reusable items to charity, take the junk to the dump, and stash the things you can’t part with (e.g. your diamond engagement ring).

3. Change your contacts. If your ex keeps sending you emails or text messages, change your email address and telephone number, or block his email address and telephone numbers. Want more? Get it withYahoo! Mail Plus.

4. Get physical with a group. Join a gym and take group classes like spinning, Pilates or aerobics. Become a member of a hiking group, rowing club, or doubles tennis team. Participate in activities that keep your mind and body busy, so what’s his name becomes a thing of the past.

5. Focus on your personal growth. It is almost inevitable that after a break-up we need to take time, be introspective and explore those areas of ourselves that need healing or expansion. Take time to explore different philosophies and techniques for finding peace in your life. My sister is currently reading The Sedona Method, which was co-founded by one of the teachers featured in The Secret, and can Accelerate Your Progress with The Most Powerful Self-Improvement Technique on the Planet.

6. Start dating again. The excitement created by chemistry and the possibility of meeting a wonderful new partner, can help you move on and get over your ex. And, you can get started slowly by browsing online dating websites, which is kind of like window shopping for a new pair of shoes! Try Perfectmatch.com – The Best Approach to Finding the Right Person for You.
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7. Explore the world. Hop on a bike, train or plane and explore new sites. If you’re on a budget, hostels across the world can give you shelter for little or no cost or, Visit Travelocity for all your European Vacation destinations and Package deals. If, on the other hand, you have extra cash on hand and love luxury, consider an Ultimate travel experiences from Orient-Express Hotels, Trains & Cruises. Book online.

8. Start a new project. If you dream of earning a college degree, starting a new business or knitting an awesome sweater, do it! Devise a plan and take steps to accomplish your goals. The world is your oyster.

9. Talk to a therapist. Often, the fastest way to deal with a devastating life experience is to work through it with the help of a professional. Find a therapist who can help you recover and move forward positively with your life.

10. Remember, remember, remember. If your ex was the wonderful, perfect, adoring husband you deserve, you’d still be together today. Let go and open yourself up to all that is yours.