Comments on: Toss the Turkey Out http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/blog/toss-the-turkey-out/ Helene L. Taylor, Esq. Thu, 22 Dec 2011 19:41:38 -0800 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Monique http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/blog/toss-the-turkey-out/#comment-20 Monique Fri, 30 Nov 2007 23:23:09 +0000 http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/2007/11/toss-the-turkey-out#comment-20 I was mainly focused on day-to-day living during the holiday season when my ex and I were separated. I spent Thanksgiving and Christmas lying on my parents' couch, crying intermittently and generally quite miserable. It gets easier each year ... and I don't miss my in-laws' holiday fights at all! I was mainly focused on day-to-day living during the holiday season when my ex and I were separated. I spent Thanksgiving and Christmas lying on my parents’ couch, crying intermittently and generally quite miserable. It gets easier each year … and I don’t miss my in-laws’ holiday fights at all!

]]> By: ModDiva http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/blog/toss-the-turkey-out/#comment-19 ModDiva Wed, 28 Nov 2007 19:12:25 +0000 http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/2007/11/toss-the-turkey-out#comment-19 Oh! That's tough. My relationship is almost exactly like yours - he has sons aged 9 and 14, but he and his ex celebrate the holidays separately. That said, it seems very selfless of your boyfriend to be willing to put up with his ex so the kids can celebrate with both parents. Is it possible that you could adjust and be okay celebrating holidays with your boyfriend and his ex? Think Bruce Willis, Demi Moore and Ashton Kusher. Does your boyfriend respond to his exes come ons? Does he want you to celebrate with the family? If he doesn't or you aren't "allowed", that's another story - not good. Believe me, it wouldn't be my first choice to celebrate holidays with my man's ex...so I feel your pain. Helene. Oh! That’s tough. My relationship is almost exactly like yours – he has sons aged 9 and 14, but he and his ex celebrate the holidays separately. That said, it seems very selfless of your boyfriend to be willing to put up with his ex so the kids can celebrate with both parents.

Is it possible that you could adjust and be okay celebrating holidays with your boyfriend and his ex? Think Bruce Willis, Demi Moore and Ashton Kusher.

Does your boyfriend respond to his exes come ons? Does he want you to celebrate with the family? If he doesn’t or you aren’t “allowed”, that’s another story – not good. Believe me, it wouldn’t be my first choice to celebrate holidays with my man’s ex…so I feel your pain.

Helene.

]]> By: Frustrated http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/blog/toss-the-turkey-out/#comment-18 Frustrated Wed, 28 Nov 2007 17:19:07 +0000 http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/2007/11/toss-the-turkey-out#comment-18 Sigh. I am in a serious relationship with a divorced man with children. We live together and have been together for three years. His ex-wife, who is engaged, insists that they continue to have a joint Christmas and birthdays. She has thrown herself at him in front of me. The divorce was about eight years ago and the kids will be 9 and 12 in a few months. She uses excuses like she wants the kids to know that they are their parents, that she wants the kids to see that they can still get along. It's just her trying to control the situation and have things her way. At this point, I don't feel like she will ever butt out of our lives. I don't know what to do anymore. I am sad that my boyfriend will not stand up to her and tell her that we are not sharing holidays anymore. It makes me feel like telling him that we won't ever have Christmas together and that I will never attend the kid's birthday parties but I know that it's not right to treat the kids that way. I am really sad and frustrated. Sigh. I am in a serious relationship with a divorced man with children. We live together and have been together for three years. His ex-wife, who is engaged, insists that they continue to have a joint Christmas and birthdays. She has thrown herself at him in front of me. The divorce was about eight years ago and the kids will be 9 and 12 in a few months. She uses excuses like she wants the kids to know that they are their parents, that she wants the kids to see that they can still get along. It’s just her trying to control the situation and have things her way. At this point, I don’t feel like she will ever butt out of our lives. I don’t know what to do anymore. I am sad that my boyfriend will not stand up to her and tell her that we are not sharing holidays anymore. It makes me feel like telling him that we won’t ever have Christmas together and that I will never attend the kid’s birthday parties but I know that it’s not right to treat the kids that way. I am really sad and frustrated.

]]> By: Jasmin http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/blog/toss-the-turkey-out/#comment-17 Jasmin Tue, 27 Nov 2007 21:58:12 +0000 http://www.themodernwomansdivorceguide.com/2007/11/toss-the-turkey-out#comment-17 The turkey was hot but the vibe at the table was very cold! At times, I wanted to scream just to make things more interesting or feel better. I felt tortured, but I'll probably stick it out through Christmas and see what happens. The turkey was hot but the vibe at the table was very cold! At times, I wanted to scream just to make things more interesting or feel better. I felt tortured, but I’ll probably stick it out through Christmas and see what happens.

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