Dating Again After years in a relationship, the thought of dating again may fill you with insecurities and uncertainties. These negative thoughts might not bother you if you choose not to date, but they may seem insurmountable if you do.

At this point there’s no need to rush into dating. If you aren’t ready, take your time. You’ll know when it feels right and when it does, reenter the dating world with these thoughts in mind:

• A lot of healing may take place in your first few dates or first serious relationship. If you date emotionally-evolved men, the relationships can be great catalysts for change.
  
  
• Dating can be disappointing. It can also be boring, tedious and unpredictable. Take it all in stride and learn from your experiences.
  
  
• Dating can be exciting. It can also be inspiring and motivational. Use this energy constructively. Pursue the education you’ve always wanted, train for a marathon or spend more time with friends.
  
  
• It’s okay to change your appearance. Get some new clothes or a refreshing makeover that reflects who you truly are. Experiment, try new things and celebrate yourself.
  
  
• It isn’t okay to jeopardize your safety. Don’t bring strangers into your home. Don’t get involved with unstable or unreliable men. Tell your family or friends with whom, and where, you are going on dates. Always practice safe sex.
  
  
• Remember, you are not alone. There are many divorced women re-entering the dating world with whom you can connect. To find them, become a member of our community and visit our blog.
  
  
• Always remain open to new experiences while staying true to yourself.
  
  

This article is not legal advice. You should consult an attorney if you have legal questions that relate to your specific divorce.

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